Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Shoe Size vs. Finances

"Despite the high cost of living, it remains a popular item." It amazes me how much it really costs just to get by, even by our age, life should be getting a little more comfortable financially. I think back at the beginning of my marriage and it was kind of fun to struggle and work for the things we obtained. Then you throw some kids in there and diapers and clothes that the kids grow out of and then the clothes that I grew out of. I'm glad things are a little more stable now.

It's nice to be able to go on a vacation every once in awhile, be able to buy a pair of shoes even if I don't need them or go to lunch without worrying if you're dipping too far into the bank account if you do. It's only a worry if your lunch changes your pant size again and you have to buy another entire wardrobe - that's when it gets expensive. But wait, it's not Whiney Wednesday, it's Tootin' Tuesday, so I'm supposed to talk about the positive things about being in my middle years.

Financial stability. It's kind of like your shoe size it gets to a certain point and then it doesn't usually change too much. The one thing you can control is how you wear it. Your foot is your income, your shoes are the expenses. Hopefully, by now, we know our necessary bills and know how much is left over at the end of the month for fun. If you try to squeeze too much foot into a smaller shoe - it's gonna be painful. You may think it looks good on you, but why limp around when you don't have to? Even Cinderella likes a little wiggle room.

I would consider myself middle working class. I work not to provide extra luxuries for my family, but to provide health insurance (there's a Whiney Wed. topic) for my family, since Mr. Fifi likes being his own boss. Plus, it keeps me out of mounds of trouble.

For my younger readers, who only look forward to reaching these wonderful mid-life years, things do get better. You don't always have to live paycheck to paycheck. At mid-life, when your feet hurt - everything hurts, so be wise in choosing shoes (expenses). Some are just not worth crippling your feet over.

Did you know the Chinese used to bind their feet so tightly, the women would have broken deformed feet, all because they thought small feet were attractive? That would be equivalent to crying poor - you've got the income, you just don't want to spend it. Like when the doctor's wife says she can't come to your Tupperware party because she can't afford it. Wouldn't you rather hear, "I'd rather bind my feet than go to a Tupperware party"? Wiggle room, ladies, that's what we need. Being cheap gives you a bad reputation, too. No one likes a cheap friend when it's your birthday.

So the important thing is to find your right size. Not too little, not too much but just right.


Leenie said...

I boycotted all home product parties a long time ago. So all my "friends" got the same treatment.

Too bad the economy isn't as stable as the size of shoes in the closet. Sometimes even when you think things won't change--they still do. Got three kids--two with families--not living in a home(one's living with us) right now because of job problems.

Pearl said...

Great post! Gives me hope, and something to look forward to. I work part time for the little extra and to relieve some of the burden from my husband. I can't wait to get through ever growing kid clothes/shoe problem. You know, when they stop growing every 3 months and you have to buy them new pants or shoes or heavens, where did those little boobies come from!

Saimi said...

I'm with ya on the health insurance sista, it's why I work!.
Although I do love the little ones sometimes this ol body has a hard time with small people, chairs, tables and a hard floor. Visit my preschool at: Three days a week

But your right, this isn't whiney Wednesday.

Nothing beats a comfy pairs of shoes!!

See Mom Smile said...

Love the shoe/finances analogy! Priceless. I just read Snow Flower and the Secret Fan. I would take a Tupperware party over foot binding anyday!!!

Kari said...

How did you get a picture of MY shoes!?
Loved the analogy. Glad I'm not a Dr's wife! :)

Karen said...

Wiggle room.....that is what I am needing right now. There are so many da#n children around here that there is not much room for much. Sigh.....I fear it is my own fault. O'well. I loved this post.